Personality Development Tips

Fears tend to evolve and change over time. A young child might be afraid of the dark, a middle-aged person could be afraid of embarrassing himself during a speech, and a newborn could be afraid of loud noises.

If you’re afraid of falling off a cliff and dying, your fear might be warranted and further evaluation is required. However, if it’s just your ego talking and you know that the fear isn’t in your best interest, that it keeps you in your current situation, then reframe the situation. The fact that you feel the fear, and maybe it makes you physically uncomfortable doesn’t have to control your thoughts or actions. 

When you’re feeling anxious take that as a sign something great might be getting ready to happen. Step outside your comfort zone and take advantage of the opportunity. This is an opportunity. It’s probably scary because it feels important. It’s a good thing, not something to be avoided. Embrace it. 

Make a list of all your fears. You’ll notice a pattern that might be embarrassing. But you can better deal with your fears if you know them and look them in the eye. You may be able to eliminate all of your fears and propel you forward to be the most successful version of yourself that you can be. 

Use fear as an opportunity to practice relaxation techniques. You might hate dinner parties, but they are a great opportunity to work on your conversational skills. When you’re feeling fear you have the chance to practice relaxing, focus on breathing slowly and think positive thoughts. It’s only your perception of the event that creates your fear, and fear is just a feeling. It sometimes does include physical symptoms, but it’s a feeling never the less that can be controlled by your brain.

If your life isn’t in danger, your fears are just a figment of your overactive imagination. And they can be controlled by changing how you think and how you feel. When you can realize this fact, you’ll also realize that all your other feelings follow the same rules. If you can make yourself feel bad you can make yourself feel good too.

Use fear to enhance your discipline. When your brain tries to stop you from doing something that makes you uncomfortable until you run away from the source of your fear, use the opportunity to exercise your ability to push through the anxiety. It will only become easier over time.

Discipline is the ability to do things you don’t feel like doing. You don’t need discipline to do things you enjoy. Does it take discipline to eat the potato chip? No of course not. But you need discipline to face your fears. So begin this practice and begin cultivating your discipline. 

Fear isn’t something to be avoided. Use fear to your advantage. Each day will present you with many opportunities to learn about yourself, your fear, and how to overcome your fears. Grab onto those opportunities and face them head one. It’s a chance to grow on a personal level, and eventually you will completely overcome your fear.