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Conquer Your Fear – a call to action for all of us who feel paralyzed by fear

by on Apr.14, 2021, under Personality Development Tips

Fears tend to evolve and change over time. A young child might be afraid of the dark, a middle-aged person could be afraid of embarrassing himself during a speech, and a newborn could be afraid of loud noises.

If you’re afraid of falling off a cliff and dying, your fear might be warranted and further evaluation is required. However, if it’s just your ego talking and you know that the fear isn’t in your best interest, that it keeps you in your current situation, then reframe the situation. The fact that you feel the fear, and maybe it makes you physically uncomfortable doesn’t have to control your thoughts or actions. 

When you’re feeling anxious take that as a sign something great might be getting ready to happen. Step outside your comfort zone and take advantage of the opportunity. This is an opportunity. It’s probably scary because it feels important. It’s a good thing, not something to be avoided. Embrace it. 

Make a list of all your fears. You’ll notice a pattern that might be embarrassing. But you can better deal with your fears if you know them and look them in the eye. You may be able to eliminate all of your fears and propel you forward to be the most successful version of yourself that you can be. 

Use fear as an opportunity to practice relaxation techniques. You might hate dinner parties, but they are a great opportunity to work on your conversational skills. When you’re feeling fear you have the chance to practice relaxing, focus on breathing slowly and think positive thoughts. It’s only your perception of the event that creates your fear, and fear is just a feeling. It sometimes does include physical symptoms, but it’s a feeling never the less that can be controlled by your brain.

If your life isn’t in danger, your fears are just a figment of your overactive imagination. And they can be controlled by changing how you think and how you feel. When you can realize this fact, you’ll also realize that all your other feelings follow the same rules. If you can make yourself feel bad you can make yourself feel good too.

Use fear to enhance your discipline. When your brain tries to stop you from doing something that makes you uncomfortable until you run away from the source of your fear, use the opportunity to exercise your ability to push through the anxiety. It will only become easier over time.

Discipline is the ability to do things you don’t feel like doing. You don’t need discipline to do things you enjoy. Does it take discipline to eat the potato chip? No of course not. But you need discipline to face your fears. So begin this practice and begin cultivating your discipline. 

Fear isn’t something to be avoided. Use fear to your advantage. Each day will present you with many opportunities to learn about yourself, your fear, and how to overcome your fears. Grab onto those opportunities and face them head one. It’s a chance to grow on a personal level, and eventually you will completely overcome your fear.

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How to overcome shyness

by on Apr.07, 2021, under Overcome Shyness, Personality Development Tips, personality development tips for students

Today we are going to talk about the essential life skill of overcoming shyness.

Have you ever wondered why you felt self-conscious or had that awkward feeling in your stomach when you entered into a room full of strangers? The heart thumping feeling when you wanted to ask someone out on a date, but felt a little shy to do so? Or wanted to approach someone for business purposes and felt a little hesitant to go speak to them about it?

Well whatever the situation may be, you could be an introvert or an extrovert, it does not matter because all of us can relate to the feeling of being shy at some point in our lives. We can all remember that anxious feeling in the pit of our stomachs in social situations. And after today you can start to remove that feeling that something or someone is holding you back when you’re talking to strangers.

Now don’t get me wrong, having a shy style is not a problem. It’s not something wrong that needs to be fixed. It’s important to accept yourself the way you are. And if you like your shy style, there’s no need to get rid of that. What we’re talking about today is my 9 best tips for taking away your anxiety and feeling of shyness so you can feel more relaxed and free to share your true self with others.

Understand the root cause of your shyness

For example when I was little my parents my teachers and my relatives used to label me as shy. They all used to say to each other and to me that I was a very very shy child. This stuck in my mind and psychologically I started believing myself to be a shy person. Well it’s important to understand the root cause because unless you know exactly why you are a shy person, it can make it difficult to overcome that shyness. The first step is to understand the root cause of your shyness.

Accept your shyness

There is no right or wrong way to be shy. And it’s not a bad thing to be shy at all. Most people in the world are shy at some point in their lives or in some situations. Even famous celebrities, politicians or business moguls. That’s why I urge you to accept the way you are. If you are a shy person, it’s absolutely okay. Don’t worry because it’s not rocket science to turn yourself into a more confident and easy going person. Then you can move on and not allow yourself to get labelled as a shy person anymore. This is much more important than it seems at first. If you can’t accept your current shyness, don’t move on to tip number three.

Make a list of all the situations and people you feel shy with

Just to give you a small example, you might feel shy when you have to talk to any girl or any guy, or maybe it’s just a specific girl or guy. You might feel shy when you have to talk to a newcomer in your office, or when you have to talk to your teacher or your boss at work. Whatever the situation, if you feel like you really want to talk to someone but can’t, then add it to your list.

Conquer your mind

Your mind is a faithful servant. Whatever you feed into it, it follows your command. If you feed it fear and worry, that’s what you will get back. So start telling yourself that you are confident and free to calmly talk about anything you want with anybody you meet. You can do this in whatever way is most comfortable to you, some people write it down every day, some say it to themselves in the mirror and some sing it under their breath on their walk to work. Do what comes natural, and your mind will take your lead and slowly begin to believe that you are not a shy person. This is the secret to conquering your mind.

Conquer the list

Now that your mind is working for you instead of against you, let’s get back to your list. Go through each item on your list and imagine what you would like to do in each scenario. Picture yourself calmly and confidently interacting with the people you wrote down, and go through the entire conversation in your head. This is called mental practice, and it’s something the world’s top athletes do to get them ready for high pressure competitions. Practice at least one scenario from your list every day and you’ll begin to internalize what it’s like to interact with people without being limited by your shyness.

Place your attention on others

The moment you start placing your attention on others and trying to understand the needs and wants of other people, you forget your own needs and insecurities. That is a miraculous thing because you can become so involved with the other person you lose awareness of yourself and what’s limiting you. It takes time to master, but if you put this to use in each of your conversations, you will quickly see the difference it can make.

Visualize Success

There is power in visualization. We’ve already seen this with the mental practice exercises. Now I want you to do the same exercise, but without referencing your list of specific scenarios. This time I want you to visualize as many different scenarios as you can. Imagine seeing yourself talk successfully to hundreds and thousands of people at once without feeling self-conscious. Imagine yourself at school, at work, or at a restaurant talking to strangers and feeling totally comfortable and in control.

Do not compare yourself with others

One of the worst things you can do is compare yourself with your colleague or your best friend who is confident in front of people and not shy at all. By comparing yourself with this other person, you’re damaging your own self-image and self-confidence. Never compare yourself with another person because each and every one of us has our own individual personality.

Do not get affected by labels

Don’t get stuck on any labels given to you by other people. If people have ever called you shy or told you that you are shy, it doesn’t mean you are now automatically shy for the rest of your life. If you put your mind to it, you can change anything. And that label was probably not accurate in the first place. They don’t know you completely, they just saw something on the surface and called you shy without thinking any more of it. So don’t worry about other people’s labels. Only you can define who you choose to be.

I hope you follow these steps, and truly take them to heart. Overcoming your shyness is possible and can make such a meaningful difference in your life every day.

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How to develop charisma

by on Mar.29, 2021, under Overcome Shyness, Personality Development Tips

Today I want to talk about charisma.

Do you want to be the kind of person that everybody likes? That everybody around you just cannot get enough of? That everybody wants to spend time with, to date, or to hang out with?

I think everybody should answer those questions with a yes. Right? All of us want to feel like we are desirable, whether it’s on a personal, professional, romantic or just a platonic level with our friends, all of us want to be liked. And all of us want to be appreciated, feel like people enjoy being around us, and that we bring a value to being in other people’s lives.

Today I want to break down how you can attain that by leveling up your charisma. Still with me? Let’s get into it.

Now there are three primary components to the trait that I consider charisma:

  1. Your ability and willingness to talk about yourself and things that make you feel a little self-conscious,
  2. The second quality is your sense of humour. Now, not everybody has to be a comedian. You don’t have to be really funny if it’s not natural for you. You can even just have a dry, or self-deprecating sense of humour. Just something to break the ice and make people feel at ease around you goes a long way towards developing that connection. It makes people feel like “this person is fun and easy going, and a little bit like me. I like them.”
  3. And the third one is showing that you care about other people. It’s about going out of your way to ask about how others are doing and what their long-term goals are. Things like what they want to do with their major when they’re done with school, or what they want to do in their career, or how it’s going with their family, or even do they see themselves parenting in the future. Whatever the specific issue that may be on their mind, and going out of your way to ask questions and follow up on it. This also means doing your best to remember not only names and faces, but to remember a little bit about their lives so if you run into them again at work or school you already have that connection. When they see you and see that you’re engaged in their life and remember something about them that made an impact on you, it leaves a lasting positive impression on them.

You can use these skills to draw people to you and make them like you in a way that will allow them to open up to you and also be vulnerable. They’ll feel like developing a friendship or relationship with you is easy.

These three traits are going to take you far in terms of being able to bring people around you to build alliances, friendships, romantic relationships, and even business partnerships. It will make it easier for you to talk to people, and for them to be responsive to you. It makes it easy to talk with people and give them a level of respect. It can even happen completely naturally for you if you just try to put yourself in the other person’s position. It will unconsciously help people feel like you care about them, which triggers their willingness to turn around and care about you in return.

The second way is to reveal your own vulnerability. This one is counterintuitive, but a really good way to break the ice with someone you want to influence is to share vulnerable parts of yourself that are relevant to the conversation. This doesn’t necessarily make you look great, but they other person will be drawn to you when you open yourself up like this and share your insecurities a little bit. It shows your confidence, and pulls at them to connect with you and also reveal their own insecurities.

Moments like this can elicit a little bit of laughter and are often going to make people feel like there’s no judgement on what they say to you because you opened up first. You’ll be surprised that when you hit on a particular topic for someone, they can just open up so much that they are like a waterfall, and their whole story just comes out. That’s how you make a connection that’s deep and emotional. You just open up a little bit, and then empathize with them when they tell you their story. It’s such a potent technique that makes people feel you really care and there’s a certain relationship that can develop, whether it’s platonic and romantic or otherwise.

Don’t forget the humour though. This isn’t supposed to be a deep soul-searching conversation. Humour helps keep it light and fun. Remember though, you don’t necessarily need to be very funny, you just need a light tone. This is more often about good timing, and just using your vulnerability and empathy to connect with people in a way that gets a little bit of laughter to take away all the tension.

Think of an overweight comedian as an example. The good ones find a way to poke fun at themselves, and break the tension. It shows you that they don’t take themselves too seriously, and that they are open to talking about any topic. You don’t even have to be overweight yourself to laugh, you can still find the concept funny and relatable. And it makes them instantly likeable. You can use this same formula to unlock that same sense of familiarity and relatability with other people. It can be as simple as just talking about your own life experiences in a way that shows you have similar struggles to their own.

So to bring this all together, charisma boils down to three primary concepts and using them in different orders, in different ways, and with different people. Those three traits are vulnerability, empathy and a sense of humour. (But a sense of humour that doesn’t cross the line into being cocky.)

So it is vulnerability which allows you to open up a little bit and admit truths about yourself that are similar and relevant to the people that you’re talking to. A sense of empathy that allows you to put yourself in somebody else’s shoes and identify where they’re coming from. And the sense of humour that allows you to connect with the other person, break the ice, and break through any sense of potential judgment that’s coming their way.

How do you put all of these together? Like any other skill, you exercise it over and over and over again in different scenarios, and you will get better over time. Plus you can watch people that seem inherently charismatic, and start to notice exactly how they do it. Look at the people that you like, people in society that you find funny, that you find likeable or relatable, and watch how they do it. See how they put it all together. But also break it down and focus on little bits and pieces of one conversation or interaction to dig deep into what they may be doing that you could try. Apply these things in your own life one person at a time, one work relationship at a time, one romantic relationship at a time. You will start to develop a sense of connection with people that will draw them to you and make you a more likeable person. This will push yourself out of your shell and increase your confidence in a huge way.

These skills are all learnable. They’re portable skills that can be used in every single area and stage of your life. You can be president of the United States, and it’s going to be just as useful as if you’re a school teacher, or a nurse, a business owner, or an executive.

Your new level of charisma and likeability will make people feel comfortable around you and want to connect with you. All of these skills are incredibly useful in every single profession and will make all the difference in the world in each and every interaction throughout your life. So whether you are a student, a rep, a doctor or a clerk, I hope you use these skills for good and put them to full use in your life.

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आप हिंदी में यहाँ और अधिक पदों को देखने के लिए करना चाहेंगे?

by on Feb.02, 2016, under Personality Development Tips, personality development tips for students

हाय वहाँ है, इस ब्लॉग को पढ़ने के लिए एक बार फिर धन्यवाद !
आप और अधिक व्यक्तित्व विकास के सुझाव और लेख हिंदी भाषा में लिखा देखना चाहेंगे ?
नीचे एक टिप्पणी पोस्ट मुझे पता है कि आप क्या सोचते हैं ।

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Personality Development Tips For Men – PPt download

by on Apr.07, 2013, under Personality Development Ppts, Personality Development Tips, personality development tips for students

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Body Language Secrets of The Personality Professionals – Video

by on Mar.30, 2013, under Personality Development For Beginners, Personality Development Tips, personality development tips for students

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Free Download – Ppt Personality Development Tips For A Winning Approach To Life

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5 Ways To Stay Focused & Achieve Your Goals

by on Mar.16, 2013, under Personality Development Tips, personality development tips for students

No matter how excited you are, with so many distractions and things that may be going on in your life, you can easily find yourself losing focus on your goals and what you want to accomplish. Below you will find 5 things that will help you stay focused on your goals.

CHANGE THE WAY YOU LOOK AT THINGS
If you find yourself at times having a negative attitude, you must realize that the way you look at things can make all the difference when it comes to reaching your goals. Even when obstacles stand in your way, maintaining a positive attitude, not a negative one and knowing that things can and will get better, will help you stay on track in reaching your goals.

FINISH WHAT YOU STARTED
You probably have heard the saying, “So many things to do and not enough time to do them.” Even though that may be true, you still have to complete them all, especially if these things help you to reach your goals. To make it easier for you, just take 1 thing you have to do and complete that task until it is done. When it is done, you will feel a sense of accomplishment and it will motivate you to move on to your next task.

ORGANIZE TO MAKE THINGS EASY AND SIMPLE
Take a moment to put things in order. If people write to you or send you orders in the mail, make 3 piles. Put the letters that need to be answered right away in the 1st pile. Letters that can be answered at a later date you can put in the 2nd pile and letters that have orders in them, you can put in the 3rd pile. Doing things like this in other areas of your life will help you keep things in priority and keep you focused on your goals.

UNDERSTAND GOALS WILL TAKE TIME TO REACH
Everything in life, if it is worth it, will take time. This goes for the goals you set for yourself. When you set goals, you should set 2 types of goals. A short term goal such as 6 months and also a long range goal, such as 3 years. You must realize that you are not going to reach your long term goals in 2 weeks. Whatever your goals may be, only through hard work, determination and keeping yourself focused, this is the way you will eventually reach your goals.

STUDY AND READ ARTICLES ON MOTIVATION
Reading articles, books or even listening to cassette tapes on motivation is a must if you want to keep yourself focused on your goals. Many successful people will tell you that even when they wanted to give up and throw in the towel, a paragraph in a book or something a motivational speaker said put them back on the right track and helped them reach their goals. So if you want to stay focused on your goals, take these 5 points and put them into action today.

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Tips to Embrace Your Personality

by on Oct.19, 2010, under Personality Development Tips

Personality consists of our thoughts, feelings, emotions, attitudes and behaviours. Our personality may be reflected in the goals we set ourselves. It is who we are. What follows are tips and suggestions to help you embrace and accept your personality and hopefully make you feel happier in the process. I also consider the idea of changing your personality and end by a consideration of how well you know and accept yourself.

  • You could begin by taking a personality test. There are many available on the internet, or you can buy a book. Else you can take the time to reflect on who you are.
  • Try to do what feels right for you, not what you feel you are expected to do.
  • Do the things that deep down make you happy and you feel comfortable with.
  • Be yourself.
  • Try to find a job that suits your personality. Not doing so can make you feel very uncomfortable and unhappy.
  • Accept other people. Do not assume that your personality is the right one and anything else is incorrect.

Happiness for introverts

  • Make regular time for yourself.
  • Take time to unwind if you have been surrounded by large groups of people.
  • Keep a journal.
  • Stand by your beliefs. To do otherwise will make you unhappy.
  • Have hobbies that give you alone time.
  • Trust your intuition, it may help you make decisions.
  • Forget societal pressure to be more extroverted. Remember, extroversion is not who you are, so enjoy being you.
  • Allow extroverts to do their bit and feel comfortable doing what you do best.

Happiness for extroverts

  • Join a group or class.
  • Learn something new at every opportunity.
  • Set goals for yourself and relish the feeling of achievement.
  • Phone your friends and family.
  • Arrange regular activities with other people.
  • Do a job that allows you to work in a group and allows regular contact with others.
  • Remember that introverts are happy as they are, so try to appreciate them.

Changing your personalityYour ability to change your personality is one for debate. If you believe that genetics plays a large role in your personality development or that personality is developed during childhood and is now fixed, then the potential for change will be limited. However, what is important is that you embrace all elements of your personality. After all, you can at least change your attitude towards your personality. Think of how your different traits are strengths to you and then use them in positive ways.

If however, you believe that your personality can go on changing throughout life, then think about the changes that you would like to make. However, you should change what you want to change, rather than feeling compelled to change. Change can also be about stepping out of your comfort zone. As such, you may do things that you believe you simply cannot do. Having completed them however, such actions will be assimilated into who you are and as a consequence, your personality has undergone a subtle shift.

How well do you know yourself?

Which is correct? How you perceive yourself, or how others perceive you? Watch an episode of Big Brother and you are likely to see a person shocked at how other people in the house perceive them. There is a difference between how they regard themselves and how they are perceived.
Think about your own life. Have you ever been told something about yourself that surprised you? Did you reject it or reflect on it? Sometimes we may underestimate who we are, or reject qualities we do not want a part of. If the disparity seems quite frequent, maybe it is time to reflect on who you are and acknowledge all aspects of yourself.

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Personality tips: what’s the difference between extroverts and introverts?

by on Oct.19, 2010, under Personality Development Tips

People are raised being taught that everyone is different. Each person is given their own personality. If everyone had the same personality type, the world would indeed be a boring place to live. There are many factors that define a person’s personality type. There are two extremes for each of these factors. One of these factors contains the two extremes known as extroverted and introverted. What exactly do these mean for a person?

What is extroverted?

Extroverted people are in the more outgoing group of people. They are the “social butterflies” of our society. They are the ones who are more apt to greet people and just join into the group that has already formed. An extrovert loves to be around other people. In fact, they often thrive on it.

Extroverts are also more likely to immerse themselves into the more fast paced jobs and other aspects of society. Slower jobs that take a long time to complete frustrate these types of people. They do not possess the patience to complete these tasks efficiently. They like a variety in their work with lots of change and lots of action. They do not mind being interrupted from their tasks by things such as a telephone call. Extroverts like to see the results of their jobs and enjoy seeing how other people do the same job. They are quick workers, but dislike jobs that are complicated.

Extroverts are also very good communicators especially verbally. With this there are also some downfalls, though. They often will act or speak quickly without thinking. This can sometimes be a dangerous thing often getting them into trouble. They also learn how to do things much better through their verbal communication and hands-on learning

What is Introverted?

Introverts are the exact opposites of extroverts in many ways. They are the shyer, quieter people of the world. They often have trouble remembering names and/or faces of people they have met. They prefer to work alone lost in their own thought rather than working with other people on a project. Introverts are often seen as the “loners” of society.

Introverts enjoy working on jobs that require a lot of thinking and that take long periods of time to complete. They are very detail oriented and think everything through thoroughly rather than making quick judgments about something. An introvert does not mind working on a single project for a long period of time and prefers to do so without any interruptions. They like for things to be quiet to aid in their concentration. They are also interested in the idea behind their job rather than how to do it.

Introverted people are better communicators through writing and other non-verbal techniques. They like to take the time to think before they speak and act and writing gives them the time that they need. Introverts sometimes have trouble getting their ideas across to others effectively. They find it easier to learn things through reading about it rather than experiencing it.

No matter which of these categories a person falls under, it is not a set stereotype. Many people carry attributes from both categories with varying degrees. A person labeled as one or the other does not need to hold true to the stereotype. Everyone is different. These are only the extremes on a wide spectrum of personality types and should be coupled with other factors to create a more accurate personality analysis.

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